Your self-esteem determines how you treat yourself physically, mentally and emotionally: it may be with love and honor or with self hate and disrespect. If your self-esteem and self-talk are negative, then it is time to reverse them into the appropriate positive talk. Only you can make them change.
Instructions
1. Write down on a daily basis any negative self-talk that you do and try to identify the situation, person or event that triggered it.You must identify and listen to your self-talk before you can make any changes.
2. Identify from your past the origin of your negative talk. Was it from a parent, an older sibling, a relative, or maybe a teacher or someone at church? You may actually be able to hear in your head the negative message in the person's own voice. Can you identify a reason why this person wanted to hurt you--maybe because of jealousy or anger?
3. Write down all of the messages you got about yourself during your childhood, both positive and negative. Make sure to include messages about how you looked, how you performed in school, or how well you played sports or a musical instrument. People often keep repeating the negative messages and totally forget about all of the positive ones that they received.
4. Challenge your self-talk. Ask yourself if your statements have any truth to them. Ask a friend if they think you are selfish, lazy or worthless. You will realize how others see the true you and not your warped image that was distorted by unquestioned negative messages.
5. Write down positive messages that you want to form in your mind to replace the negative ones. Stick them on your mirror, on the refrigerator and on your computer so that you see them and repeat them daily.
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